Substance Abuse vs Substance Addiction

It is a common misperception that substance abuse is the same as substance addiction. In fact, each of these conditions affects different parts of the brain. It doesn’t help that  abuse looks similar to addiction and can ultimately lead to addiction. Substance Abuse vs Substance Addiction: Defining Abuse The essential Continue Reading →

Netflix: Modern Marital Passive Aggression

Forms of revenge between married partners used to involve old-fashioned passive aggressive warfare. My father was very comfortable with simply the aggressive part of that technique, so my mother honed her skills in the passive arena. His ying to her yang or some such. They have been married for 59 Continue Reading →

What Does It Feel Like To Live With An Addict?

To Live With an Addict Is To Live With Shame As an adult, it felt like someone in the passenger seat was pulling the steering wheel into the path of an oncoming truck on an unfamiliar curvy mountain road. It’s scary as shit and fraught with stress, instability and humiliation. Continue Reading →

Rationalizations: You Are Never Wrong

Rationalizations Mean You Are Never Wrong Do you have people in your life who are self-delusional about their motivations? Michael: “I don’t know anyone who could get through the day without two or three juicy rationalizations. They’re more important than sex.” Sam Weber: “Ah, come on. Nothing’s more important than Continue Reading →

Addiction Myth: Addicts Must Hit Rock Bottom

You have heard it hundreds of times: Addicts must hit rock bottom before they can get better. The more I read and understand about addiction makes that until recently uncontroverted “rule” seem as sound as putting leaches on my skin to suck out the demons. When have you ever heard Continue Reading →

Parental Fear: Will My Child Become Addicted?

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Have You Ever Wondered, “Will My Child Become Addicted to Drugs or Alcohol?” The fear that one of my children might become addicted to drugs or alcohol at some point in their lives started when they were babies. As I held each of these incredible people in my arms and Continue Reading →

Addiction Stigma: Being Anonymous Isn’t Helping

The Addiction Stigma of Anonymous I am a proponent of any addiction rehabilitation program, be it medical, spiritual, physical or magical, that helps addicts get a handle on their addiction. It is amazing to me that at this stage in my life that I am still susceptible to the pitfalls Continue Reading →

Most Doctors Do Not Address Addiction

This is a continuation on a series of blog posts about Addiction. You can read the other posts by clicking Addiction is a Disease and Myth: Addiction is a Choice. Most Doctors Do Not Address Addiction Half-way through non-sobriety, I scheduled a routine doctor’s appointment for my Addict which I attended. I Continue Reading →

Myth: Addiction is a Choice

Part Two: Do You Believe Addiction is a Choice? (Read Part One here.) When you are in the throes of dealing with the chaos an Addict creates, it is hard to see the disease clearly through a lens clouded by your completely justified anger and disappointment. Addiction is unlike any Continue Reading →

Addiction Is a Disease, Not a Moral Failing

Do You Believe Addiction Is a Disease? I suspect nearly every person who is reading these words has been touched by addiction and pondered whether addiction is a disease or not. Some believe it is. Others think it’s a matter of self-discipline. Philip Seymour Hoffman’s abrupt death rocked the foundation Continue Reading →