How a white ally can fight racial inequality

Are you a white ally who hates racism but doesn’t know what to do about it? A close friend asked me to write about what a “lazy liberal”, whose heart aches for the marginalized in our St. Louis community, can do to show support for racial equality. She wanted to know whether the only way to get involved was to Keep reading!

Mokabe’s Coffeehouse customer review

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Restaurant Review for Mokabe’s Coffeehouse: Three bullets out of six I’ve lived in St. Louis, Missouri since 2008 but never had the occasion to go to the quaint Mokabe’s coffeehouse until recently. Locals raved so much about the place and their service, I simply had to find out for myself. A neighbor told me Mokabe’s was designated as a “safe Keep reading!

Ferguson Grand Jury decision: Make love, not war

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The last week has been one of the most intense in recent memory. I don’t even know where to begin to compartmentalize all my emotions. I have been proud, scared, grateful, annoyed, astounded, incredulous, sad, guilty, maternal, angry. And that’s just on Thanksgiving day spent with my kids and family. This goes down for me as one of the most messed-up Keep reading!

Grand Jury Announcement: Which side are you on?

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The Grand Jury Announcement could come any day now I haven’t been blogging as frequently because I’ve been so busy with life. I HATE it when that happens! I’ve been wondering something though. Have I become one of those relatives the other family members are loathe to talk to at family gatherings? Am I so entrenched with my position regarding Keep reading!

A call for civility: Ferguson protest lessons

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Ferguson protests Some folks from St. Louis are embarrassed by the spotlight on their community as a place of disgraceful racial unrest. I don’t see it that way. I feel like people are finally talking to one another from both sides of the table. What is being said isn’t always pleasant or easy to hear, but St. Louis was in Keep reading!

I hate cooking for assholes

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I used to love cooking. My first husband and I cooked together a lot as newly-married twenty somethings. He’d open a nice bottle of wine, like maybe one over $10 that had a cork instead of a spigot. I’d pop in a Frank Sinatra CD (remember those?) and blast it so we could hear it in the kitchen. Then we’d wage Keep reading!

Racial double standard: who gets the benefit of the doubt?

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WHY is it so hard for some people to admit there is a racial double standard in the U.S.? We see double standards with all sorts of situations. Tall people get more credit than short people. Pretty people are chosen for jobs over less attractive people. Babies are cute and old people smell. (Actually, babies and old people both smell Keep reading!

Day in the life of a Ferguson Legal Observer

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Legal Observer in training Several different groups organized secret direct actions to occur all over St. Louis on Moral Monday, October 13th following the disclosed Clergy/Faith leader protest at the Ferguson Police Department. I took a short break from standing in the rain watching religious leaders and Cornel West get arrested. After changing into dry clothes, I picked up Joel Keep reading!

Moral Monday: Clergy March to Ferguson PD

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Ferguson October: Moral Monday Their voices are still in my head. Their chants echo in my mind. No justice, no peace! Their faces are committed to my memory for eternity. I never really saw them before, I mean really saw them. Until August 2014, I had not considered going to their part of town, a mere ten miles from my own, or Keep reading!

How to talk to a friend with cancer: do’s & don’ts

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Talking To Your Friend With Cancer I’m reposting a post I wrote about what to say to a friend with cancer, this being Awareness month. Over the past year, several friends have asked me how to talk to and help friends of theirs with a new cancer diagnosis. I generated this list from my experience with breast cancer, but it Keep reading!