There, I said it: winter sucks

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The inside of my nose feels like it’s lined with fiberglass. I want to remove my eyeballs and soak them in a vat of KY jelly until they are reconstituted like dried out mushrooms. The skin on my fingers is cracked and my feet look like crusty dog chew toys. My lips are as supple and kissable as a sun-dried Keep reading!

Protest attire: ways to stand out in a crowd

Protest attire: what does it say about you? Are you projecting the image you want when you get dressed to go to a protest? What does your outfit say about you? There are reasons one might want to tone down protest attire. You may not have declared that extra job on your taxes. Or suppose you told friends to meet Keep reading!

2014 in review: it was absurd

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Absurd & surprising describes 2014 in review for me 2014 Resolutions: some achieved, some re-purposed Consistent with my usual New Year’s goals last January, I thought that I’d find gainful employment in 2014, lose those seven pounds that forever torment me, become mentally healthier, become physically stronger, improve the lives of my kids, increase my happiness, discover the meaning of Keep reading!

How a white ally can fight racial inequality

Are you a white ally who hates racism but doesn’t know what to do about it? A close friend asked me to write about what a “lazy liberal”, whose heart aches for the marginalized in our St. Louis community, can do to show support for racial equality. She wanted to know whether the only way to get involved was to Keep reading!

Mokabe’s Coffeehouse customer review

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Restaurant Review for Mokabe’s Coffeehouse: Three bullets out of six I’ve lived in St. Louis, Missouri since 2008 but never had the occasion to go to the quaint Mokabe’s coffeehouse until recently. Locals raved so much about the place and their service, I simply had to find out for myself. A neighbor told me Mokabe’s was designated as a “safe Keep reading!

Ferguson Grand Jury decision: Make love, not war

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The last week has been one of the most intense in recent memory. I don’t even know where to begin to compartmentalize all my emotions. I have been proud, scared, grateful, annoyed, astounded, incredulous, sad, guilty, maternal, angry. And that’s just on Thanksgiving day spent with my kids and family. This goes down for me as one of the most messed-up Keep reading!

Grand Jury Announcement: Which side are you on?

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The Grand Jury Announcement could come any day now I haven’t been blogging as frequently because I’ve been so busy with life. I HATE it when that happens! I’ve been wondering something though. Have I become one of those relatives the other family members are loathe to talk to at family gatherings? Am I so entrenched with my position regarding Keep reading!

A call for civility: Ferguson protest lessons

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Ferguson protests Some folks from St. Louis are embarrassed by the spotlight on their community as a place of disgraceful racial unrest. I don’t see it that way. I feel like people are finally talking to one another from both sides of the table. What is being said isn’t always pleasant or easy to hear, but St. Louis was in Keep reading!

I hate cooking for assholes

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I used to love cooking. My first husband and I cooked together a lot as newly-married twenty somethings. He’d open a nice bottle of wine, like maybe one over $10 that had a cork instead of a spigot. I’d pop in a Frank Sinatra CD (remember those?) and blast it so we could hear it in the kitchen. Then we’d wage Keep reading!

Racial double standard: who gets the benefit of the doubt?

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WHY is it so hard for some people to admit there is a racial double standard in the U.S.? We see double standards with all sorts of situations. Tall people get more credit than short people. Pretty people are chosen for jobs over less attractive people. Babies are cute and old people smell. (Actually, babies and old people both smell Keep reading!